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The Glory Hole

Hey guys!!  

It’s been a long time since I’ve posted I’ve been busy with my new job, being married and I guess not having as many interesting stories to share with you because of that!

BUT last night that all changed.  I went to the Pleasure Chest’s 40 Year Anniversary party titled ‘Glory Hole’ last night.  I’ve very tame when it comes to the sex industry – I like whipping out some toys now and then don’t get me wrong.  Last night, I saw it ALL from spanking, dom/sub couples and craziest of all – the Glory Hole.  I’ll let the photos speak for me.  And without further adieu…..

 1. Contortionist – at one point she had her legs around her head!Image

2. Sweet Beats — a mobile DJ spinning all types of 80’s throwbacks!  Great dancing music!Image

 

3. Loved her outfit!  And cotton candy boobies.

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4. GLORY HOLE!  This was a huge enclosed room (I would say about 40 feet x 40 feet) boxed in covered with white fur.  There were about 30 baseball sized holes all around and you could peep on erotic things happening inside.  The first time I peeked it was a large woman masturbating with an extremely large dildo. This is the second time I looked and it was two chicks dressed as werewolves getting it on.  I’m assuming they like being watched…and videotaped by 30+ people.

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5. Spanking Station – now THIS would be a fun job.  You could almost feel the sting just watching!! Ouch!Image

 

6. I loved this couple!  I felt like I was at Carnival!  Image

7. Strippers!  You can’t have a party at the Pleasure Chest without a stripper pole.  This woman in particular could climb that pole like no other.  Image

 

8. Baby – This guy scared me.  He was dressed up as a baby and this mask looked a little to real…and creepy.Image

So there you have it, folks!! My evening at the Pleasure Chest.  Happy 40th Anniversary!

xoxo

Vibin’ Vixen

 

 

 

 

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Interview: A Vaginismus Christmas

Imagine having a lover that you can’t make love to?  What if when you tried to insert a tampon, it popped right out?  Or not being able to masturbate with a dildo?  These few symptoms describe the Vaginismus condition which effects 2 in ever 1000 women.

I had the pleasure of meeting with Ashley (I have changed her name for privacy purposes) this week who suffers from Vaginismus and got to dig a little bit deeper into this condition.

Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or ‘will’ the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem.


vaginismus anatomy diagram

Vaginismus Involuntary Tightness – In the diagram on the left, the effects of vaginismus are illustrated with the tightening of the pelvic floor muscles and the resulting tightness of the vagina. On the right, the pelvic floor is relaxed and intercourse is possible without pain.

Primary & Secondary Vaginismus

Examples of Vaginismus – In the vaginismus condition, as the man approaches the woman, her PC muscle group (darkly shaded) involuntarily tightens the vaginal entrance making intercourse painfully impossible or penetration may be successful but may result in burning, discomfort, and pain.

I got to ask Ashley a few questions about this horrible condition.

Vibin’ Vixen: When did you find out you had Vaginismus?

Ashley: I first had an idea when I was 13.  I hit puberty very young – when I was only 8 years old I had underarm hair.  Shortly after, I got my first period.  When I tried to insert a tampon, it would pop right out or wouldn’t insert at all.  I thought it was odd, but I was young and just wore pads.  I didn’t know there was actually a disorder for many years.    Through high school I had boyfriends that I would try to have sex with and it just wouldn’t work.  I couldn’t even fit a finger inside me without excruciating pain (if it even managed to get in).  I continued to talk to my friends through high school and no one had these issues — so I had a feeling I was a little different.  Finally when I was 24 years old, I knew I had it because I tried (again) to have sex and the next day I was completely swollen shut.  I was bleeding and in a lot of pain.  I googled these symptoms and headed straight to my gynecologist…..and it was confirmed.

VV:  How have you been treating it?

A: It’s a little embarrassing!  The doctor told me to get the kit which consists of stretching devices and numbing creme – but I didn’t have $60 to spend on it so I created my own version. I had this long plastic decoration at home that looked very similar to a dildo, so I put a condom on it (I didn’t trust where it might have been before) and lubed it up.  I tried to stay relaxed and practiced each night getting it in a little further each time until finally it was enjoyable. Every time I used it, it was easier to insert and I got more & more comfortable.  After a few weeks I was becoming quite a pro and very proud of myself.

VV: So….have you had sex yet?

A:  Actually, this interview is very timely.  Just Wednesday after all of my practice, I had full-on sex for the first time in my life.  He got the whole way inside me and yes it KILLED to begin with but by the end it was enjoyable.  I feel like I just lost my virginity and can’t wait to try it again!

VV: That is so excited!! Congratulations!  Please keep us posted on your progress…

After talking further with Ashley, we learned that there are many deeper issues that may have caused Vaginismus.  Since she hit puberty much younger than her peers, had a religious family that shunned sex and an eating disorder her self-esteem has been pretty low.  She’s looking into therapy and is continuing to practice stretching and sex with her new practice partner.

xoxo

Vibin’  Vixen

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Bathroom Sink

Last week we had the kids straight through for a week.  This means, that Cowboy and I barely had a second to sex it up.  Even at night the youngest crawled into our bed scared from watching Friday the 13th.  This would happen at any random time between 11PM and 4AM…..so our chances of getting it on were slim to none.   Then Cowboy got crazy.  While I was putting my face on in the bathroom, he snuck in, locked both doors and stripped down.  Before I knew it he had me up on the sink and we were going at it.  I thought it was so sexy that he took control (and also the risk of being heard or caught by the kids).  Although it was just a few quick minutes, I definitely didn’t need my blush for the day.  Rrrrawwr.

Have you ever gone at while people were within earshot?

xoxo

Vibin’ Vixen

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Bangin’ to the 80’s

Normally we get it on without music.  This is never a conscious decision….it just happens that way.  The other night, I decided to play the iPod before we got to banging and just put it on shuffle.  A few minutes into our romp, my stripper song came on.  Followed by all of Cowboy’s favorite hair bands.  It put a bit of a damper (and some humor) onto our bang-fest!  I’ll have to make a playlist we put on for our next time so we don’t get distracted by Quiet Riot’s ‘Come On Feel the Noise’.

Have you ever had an awkward song come on during sex?

xoxo

Vibin’ Vixen

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Q & A: Women and Orgasms

I got an interesting email the other day and he was nice enough to let me share his question with all of my lovely readers!
ANONYMOUS:  I am 34 married 13 years.  We have sex 3-4x a week, I enjoy it, she enjoys it, sometimes its wildly passionate sometimes its run of the mill sex…i imagine that is common, not every night can it be blow your mind sex.  I do not think my wife orgasms, and if she does its not often at all.  I pay attention to her, oral, finger, you name it.  During intercourse she tells me what she likes and I try to give it to her.  Personally I think the issue is she herself doesn’t know how to orgasm.  She never masturbates (and claims she NEVER has).  I want her to first try masturbating herself to orgasm and then when she is ready possibly use a toy (by herself, with me, whatever she wants).  Can you get me advice how to do this?
VIBIN’ VIXEN:  Well first of all, thank you for your question and that’s a very good one.  And second, CONGRATS on having such a healthy sex life!  I am very excited to hear that although your wife doesn’t orgasm, she has sex 3-4 times a week — she deserves a pat on the back for that one (or some cunnilingus I’m sure would do).   I completely agree with you that masturbation is the key to her reaching an orgasm.  There is a small percentage (10%) of women out there who never had an orgasm through sex or masturbation but not to fear, there are a few tricks to try!  Ask her if she feels comfortable enough masturbating with your ‘help’.  You can hold the vibrator, tickle her clitoris and kiss her neck so that she begins to feel ‘OK’ about touching herself.  Let her know how sexy it is and how great she looks doing it so she doesn’t get embarrased.
Now for the tricks…..
One good way to orgasm is to have her tense her body including her kegals.  Almost like contractions, go in waves in and out of tensing those muscles.  Another great trick is to relax and let your wife know you can be there for hours rotating toys, stimulation and whatever she needs.  Just play around in bed, have fun and let her mind stop so the orgasms can take over her body.
And some more tricks that you can do to her….
Don’t forget the clit!  Most women need stimulation of the clitoris. This is our part that is most sensitive and must never be ignored 🙂
Women are emotional creatures….we need love, romance, cuddling and a good setting.  Sometimes when I can’t orgasm I think about how much I love Cowboy and I’m there.
Ask your wife what she wants!  It could be very simple like ‘move your finger to the right a tiny bit’ but if you don’t speak up you’ll never know.
If you come before her,  try to gather up some energy to kiss and stimulate her, so that she can try to get the big O too.
Please stay in touch and let me know if any of my suggestions work for your wife.
VV readers — if you have any input for Anonymous please comment below!
PS – Only a few days left for the OOO Condoms Giveaway!
xoxo
Vibin’ Vixen

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Giveaway: OOO Condoms

A few weeks ago I was exploring new sex stores and came across The Velvet Box and their clever blog with some great new lines I hadn’t seen before.  As soon as I saw their post on the OOO Condoms I knew I had to try them.  I am a sucker for impulse buys and interesting packaging and this line is just that.   The lovely folks from OOO Boutique sent me a massive package of their entire collection and it is more gorgeous in person.  I haven’t used a condom in years but made Cowboy take one for the team so I could do a proper review.  I chose the passion pack collection’s ‘savor me’ condom (other sensual options being ‘rock me’ and ‘feel me’).  It’s hard to compare sex without a condom to sex WITH a condom — but if I was a single lady, I wouldn’t use any other type.  How cool to whip one of these out when you’re crawling into the  sack??  And because of this…..I want my lovely readers to have a chance to look really cool.

I’ve partnered with OOO Boutique and OOO Condoms to do a giveaway!  Listen up, here are the dets:

WHAT — One lucky winner will receive the ‘Take Me’ set (8 condoms with different sex locations), ‘Try Me’ set (8 condoms demonstrating different positions), ‘Tryst’ collection (rock me, savor me and feel me), the ‘Art of Lust’ collection, the ‘Kung Fu Sutra’ and a variety of singles.

HOW TO ENTER — ‘Like’ me on Facebook , Follow me on Twitter and comment below about a fun sexual experience you’re going to have with your OOO Condoms!

Good luck!!  I’ll be randomly choosing a winner on August 1, 2011 at 5PM PST.

xoxo,

Vibin’ Vixen

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Ice Cream Served By A Vulva

One of my favorite stores to peruse the newest things the sex industry has to offer, Babeland, has gone outside the box again.  I swear their marketing/pr team is made up of geniuses.  Yesterday in NYC they served up free ice cream in front of their Soho and Brooklyn store…..served by the ‘Babeland Vulva’.  What?!  Top toy brand, Jimmy Jane teamed up with Babeland on this endeavor.  I hope it was a success because it was a great idea!

Would you get free ice cream from a vulva?

xoxo

Vibin’ Vixen

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